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EP100 - A Thousand Lessons: Connection, Identity, and the Basics That Build a Life

• Sophia Delavari • Season 1 • Episode 100

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A plastic chair, a budget mic, and a stubborn belief that simple habits can change a life—this is how our show began. Hitting the 100-episode mark, we pull back the curtain on what truly compounds: explaining ideas simply, practicing love-led coaching, and choosing connection over noise when shortcuts tempt us to forget the basics.

We trace the arc from emotional eating and low self-trust to a durable process that rebuilt identity from the inside out. You’ll hear why “confidence” is often just evidence stacked quietly over time; how a misaligned, headline-grabbing guest clarified purpose more than any win; and what elite coaches taught us about leading with care instead of fear. We question the rise of AI and quick fixes in health—GLP-1s included—asking how memory, meaning, and community survive when every hard edge is automated. The answer keeps returning to the fundamentals: consistent sleep, honest food, patient training, sunlight, long walks, and conversations that make us feel seen.

Across stories of rejection, risk, and reinvention—from selling intangibles to shedding career skins—we spotlight a pattern shared by the most content guests: guard three pillars every day—mind, nutrition, and physical body. When one slips, satisfaction fades. The fix is rarely exotic; it’s usually just closer attention and a bit more care. If you’ve felt stuck, this milestone is a reminder that you don’t need a new identity to begin—only a new practice. Listen for the lessons, borrow the ones that fit, and leave the rest. If the episode resonates, share it with a friend, subscribe for more thoughtful conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.

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Welcome back to another episode of the Detach Podcast. Today is the 100th episode of the Detached Podcast. So if you've been listening since the very, very beginning, I just want to say a huge thank you for always being there for listening. And I hope I've provided somewhat some sort of value or maybe some life lessons that you have found along the way of listening through people's journeys and also through a lot of my life lessons, too. If you've been here since the very beginning, you'll understand that I started this podcast off as a solo cast. It started off as a podcast based on health and wellness. And it started from a plastic chair in my studio apartment in Business Bay, Dubai. Um and it actually started off the back end of doing an Instagram live during uh COVID. And I remember at the time I had read so many books previous to doing an Instagram live that on uh on Instagram, and I'd read so many books, all right, because I felt so insufficient with knowledge that I just went on a bit of a life journey that I kept reading, reading, reading, reading, and then when I was asked to do this Instagram live, it was kind of like everything that I learned was actually inside here. And the narrative that I had inside my mind was that I was not knowledgeable enough, not intelligent, I suppose. Um, and in that very moment when I did an Instagram live, I felt like wow, all the information that I've actually learned, I can share this with other people. So then I had a yaha moment at the time, and I thought, why don't I set up a podcast and share all my life lessons from health, nutrition, fitness, my body transformation? Why don't I share this? So I went on the pathway of figuring out how the hell to do a podcast, YouTubing, and I bought myself a mic. It was a blue, was it a yeti blue mic? I don't know, I think it was like a hundred dirums. Um, divide that by four if you're in Euros. Anyway, you know, got my mic, sat down on a plastic chair, went in the kitchen, and I started recording. And I found the first lesson I learned from podcasting was to truly understand information, you have to be able to explain it in a simplified version that the listener can actually understand. And I remember studying such complex ideas, also things to do with nutrition, medicine. And if I couldn't fully explain it in a simplified simplified version, I realized I was a terrible coach. And I was a personal personal trainer at the time. So it brought me on a journey to not only provide information and value to other people, but to become a better coach. I realized over time it enhanced my ability to articulate myself, and this was something that I really struggled with. Now I know it might seem like I'm this confident, bubbly person, but I was not always like this. Before I was, if you haven't watched or been around too long, even on my Instagram, my podcast, maybe you don't realize or understand that I was 20 kilos heavier than what I am today, I think. Maybe it used to be more, but maybe a little bit heavier on the heavier side today. But previous to that, when I was a little bit heavier, I suffered a lot with emotional eating, you know, I would eat away my emotions, and every time I felt emotional, I would turn to food as my coping mechanism. And I didn't have trust for myself back then because I couldn't trust myself not to run to food, and I knew at this stage before I didn't appreciate the body that I was living in because I felt overweight, uncomfortable, I lacked self-confidence. I just couldn't get after my dreams or my true potential. And I knew I needed to change, but I didn't fully understand how I could change my behaviors and habits in order to have that body transformation. And I know this might really sound very, you know, aesthetic, or I should say, I feel like I'm really putting so much focus on vanity, but when you visually dislike your body and feel so uncomfortable with the way you look, you steal your presence and your potential to have the opportunity in life to really create something for yourself. And I always felt like I had the potential to do amazing things, but my body was stealing me away from this. So I did go on a bit of a fat os journey, and this is actually where um I've created a book recently, and I'm hoping to publish it now in November. Um, but back then when I was overweight, not only was I overweight, I suffered from dyslexia. Um and I felt like my knowledge wasn't adequate enough. Um, then your body on top of it, and then your overall self-confidence is on the floor. So I knew I needed to change. And when I went on this body transformation and became a coach, and then started to coach other people through their own journey and then create this podcast, I realized that you're always learning, you're learning through coaching and being able to transfer any information or experience that you have had in your life that has been life-changing for you is such an amazing and probably selfish feeling inside when you get to share that with others. Because my biggest priority and purpose in life is to help others. And what I've realized as well as I've gotten older is that you cannot help others unless you help yourself first. And that has become my, I could say, selfish act of self-care to myself, is to look after myself to the point that I become so confident, so happy in my own skin, to fill my reservoir of any of the holes that I feel that are inside me in order to become a better person, to either be around, to become a better friend, a better coach, a better leader when it comes to work. And by all means, I'm not perfect. I'm not perfect whatsoever. And this is something that I completely have to work on all the time because I believe when I work on my body, sometimes my mindset might shift or my mindset might take a defect because I'm so focused on working on my physical body that I forget about my mindset. So it's how do I work on all these key elements to keep everything level and balanced, and to be able to not have too many bottlenecks when it comes to working on my performance on an intellectual level as well as a physical level. So, anyway, going off on a tangent here, um, and I would have hoped to be sat here on my hundredth episode with my own book because I feel like this journey that I've been on with the podcast, with my body transformation, and now with the book, um, I feel like it's kind of come full circle, but I feel like there's always space for improvement, no matter what. But I do believe it's really important to kind of sit back, take a look, reflect, and see how far you've come and acknowledge it. Give yourself a pat in the back, but keep moving forward, don't get too comfortable because there's always room for improvement. Now, I've probably the typical person who doesn't acknowledge any sort of achievements um or any growth or progression until like maybe three months down the line. You know, I just move. What's next? Um, but to highlight something here, as I said, I would have loving to have my own book here. I do have this book, Atomic Habits. And this was one of the books that absolutely changed my life. And it's funny because I didn't purposely actually bring this here today, it was in the studio, and I thought, wow, this is this is a book that probably may motivated me to actually write my own book. And the reason being is that although you think motivation is so important, and maybe you can be inspired by motivation to take action on things, but really when it comes down to the bottom line, it's discipline and it's structure and it's your process that actually moves the needle for you in the future. And in this book as well, it talks about the compounding effect of every little behaviors and habits, is what actually accumulates into the result that you have right now. And with the nine the hundredth episode that I'm doing today, you know, if someone had said to me, like, oh, you'll have a hundred episodes by then or whatever, you know, you think, Wow, that's that's a lot, but it's not a lot when you do one a week, and it's that compounding effect where if I was to listen to my first podcast in between now and the first one, I'm not too sure it would have the same effect now. I've not only become a better listener, a better communicator, and also I feel like I understand people a little bit more, and I believe that maybe I am, I was quite naive, and I probably still am at some stage, but I definitely felt like my ego got in the way, and I wouldn't have found that out without the accumulation of the little baby steps that I've done along the way. Um, but anyway, to swim back to the many episodes that I've had on this podcast, there's been a few lessons that I've really learned, and one for sure is connection and the importance of connection and people, and I think this is so important more now than ever, and it's something that I talk about quite frequently because people believe that I'm full of confidence to speak in front of the camera or to speak to people and it's easy for me. But if I'm truly honest, every time I meet someone for the first time, even on this podcast, I do feel a little unsettled. It feels unnatural. But at the end of the day, what keeps me stuck here is the fact that I get to have the chance to have human connection and to unpack a beautiful conversation with an individual. And I get to do this not only on the camera, but off the camera. We get to speak to strangers, you know, to the coffee man, to the coffee woman, I should say. And I think we take all this for granted. And I think there's gonna come a stage now where AI begins to replace humans on your day-to-day I don't know, run through as per se. And I don't know how fulfilled and happy people are gonna feel and content because I often use this analogy as well before, where therapy was never really a thing. People didn't really have to go and see a therapist, and the reason for that was that people used to sit around in the evening and they'd have long in-depth conversations, and they would build that close connection with their loved ones or with their friends, and we're replacing these deeper connections and conversations with technology, and we're becoming so disconnected. So I really hope when I'm sat here on the hundred episode, that when I'm at 200, will I even have a connecting conversation? Will you, the listener, even connect with other people around you? Or will technology actually replace that? And let me ask you this question Do you believe if humans were removed out of your day and replaced with technology with everything from a touch of a button, how content would you actually feel? Since I did this podcast, I did one with Sonny Webster, an Olympic athlete. And there was one takeaway that I took from his podcast was the power of connection and community, and seeing how he creates community through sport, through coaching, you can really show the elements of inspiration, discipline, motivation, and the depth that is added to each individual that he coaches has been recognized over only just online, like coaching. Like so, for me, for example, I feel like his impact in person creating these communities has way more depth and it becomes way more memorable. That I believe the people that he sees in person, they get true results, they build this connection, and that motivation and discipline then tends to really sustain. As opposed to, okay, maybe you might see online coaches or online seminars, you don't truly get to feel, touch, invigorate all your senses to be able to have a sustainable experience. I think it's more forgettable. So I I really dance with the idea that now that AI is replacing humans for many things, are the things that we are going to eventually learn, are they going to be sustainable? And there was a study that I that I saw in between four different groups who created an essay using Chat GPT. There was one group who used ChatGPT, and there was another group who didn't. And the key learnings from this research study, and there was obviously two other groups, I'm going to butcher this now. The key learning from this study was the fact that the people who didn't use AI had better memory. And I wonder is our memory gonna be diluted? Are we gonna have shareable memories in the future if we don't connect with others? So that's probably one of my key learnings from the podcast is that connection is everything. And I don't know, even me speaking to you now, do you connect or do you forget? And that's something that I believe it kind of worries me a little. Because although people like to talk about legacy and leaving things behind, I just believe that maybe we might forget some life lessons that are truly important to us because the depth isn't there, the connection isn't there. We don't heighten our senses through this. AI has its place in everything, and I do see some amazing things in the AI healthcare space. And I just uh recently went to an event here in Dubai, and it was the WHX Tech Summit, and I'm looking at smart hospitals and integrated healthcare where they'll not you'll not need many nurses or hospitals with people inside it. And I don't know if AI can provide that care as much as a human can. And this kind of leads me on to the next part of uh my learnings from the podcasts. I I had coach Javier Mendez on, who's a coach for Khib, and he's also worked with Islam. And what I found fascinating with him and how successful he was with these amazing USC fires was the fact that he coached from a place of love and affection, not from fear, not from scarcity, not from hardship, but from pure love. And I tried to understand how is coaching so effective from love on its own, coaching from a place where you care. And I tried to relate this back to myself, even when I was coaching for years. I often wondered sometimes I'd give a little bit of tough love, or maybe sometimes I'd be too harsh and maybe the client didn't listen. And I did realize that sometimes this approach is very individualized. Some people want love and care, some people want to be shouted at, they want the scarcity, they want to feel like they're on their toes 24-7. But when I looked down at the psychology and understood what happens, I realized that when you coach people with care, love, positivity, and take leadership from a place of goodwill, you'll understand that there's more sustainability with the people that you coach or the people that you lead because they build trust with you, they feel safe. So the longevity in people feeling safe around you means that they're willing to grow and work with you, and also I have a question. When you feel like you're in fear and you feel unsafe, do you believe that that is sustainable? And nine times out of ten, it's a no. It's either you adapt, but do you feel like you're valued? And when I heard Coach Mende say this and how successful he was, I really thought, how can I adapt this approach to also my workforce? And I thought maybe I did get it wrong for some clients previously before. And I realized when I look at some of my mentors and some of the people that I look up to the most, it was actually the ones that did show me care and affection that led me to that sustainable relationship and growth within my career. So I do think there's a place for that, and I want to say a huge thank you to Coach Mendez for showing me that as well, and was one of my learnings. Now, another learning from how many podcasts I've done was don't always chase the shiny stuff because you may have a bad experience. I thought it would have been a wonderful idea to do a podcast with the Tinder Swindler. Little did I know, like literally six hours before I'd booked the session and came in, how uncomfortable I was gonna feel. And I realized my initiative and my purpose for this podcast was to create a health and wellness, you know, thought-provoking podcast with entrepreneurs, and to be honest, interviewing someone like this. My method and my idea behind this was to understand the psychology of someone who potentially lied to thousands of people or millions, I could even say. Um and this brings me back to the curiosity that I've always had even since I was a kid, is always be curious, ask questions, understand people, gain different perspectives. But really, I just after that podcast I did, I've never felt so uncomfortable. And then I realized that sometimes you should just listen to your gut because it didn't feel right. And I didn't, I did the podcast at two at 6 p.m. and I didn't sleep until 2 a.m. And moments like that, then it's like sometimes you realize you're on this journey or you're on this path, and sometimes you will need to derail yourself, but it's these little episodes and these little actions that you take, and it to realize I'm going off my pathway. And I felt like I was doing that with the podcast. So, anyway, to drop back onto the podcast, we're back on the health and wellness. Um, um I think it's because it's such an ever-growing um, I suppose it's an ever-growing industry that we're in that's never gonna go away because health and wellness is so important. And this curly brings me to the next topic that I'd like to discuss because, as I said, with the book that I created, it's called I'm Tired of Being Fat, and the tagline is Command Your Body, Command Your Your Mind. And I think this is really, really crucial right now because as we see the rise of GLP1 drugs, I often wonder, are we preparing people for war? Because what happens outside of these drugs? If they don't get the right care, attention, accountability, or they don't create the habits and behaviors that they will need for when they stop the medicine, what happens next? And I don't know who's to judge here, because I do believe that GLP1 drugs have a place, but also I worry for people who are coming out the other side. And I wonder if we just focus on the basics, can we bypass that? But I believe that when people are using these drugs, they do need someone to support to focus on the basics to get them right and build a foundation for when they come off these drugs. And I believe that our modern design of society now is creating new medications, new prescriptions, new types of food, electrolytes that taste so sweet and amazing. So we become a consumer. We feel like we need everything when we should need nothing. And I think there's something really powerful in never really needing anything. I often get asked this question: Sophia, what do you love? What would you like? And believe it or not, I'm totally not the material person because I believe there's so much power in needing nothing. And I will say this, and I'll probably be a very big hypocrite on this when I'm the type of person that has their nails done, has their eyelashes done. But I believe that it shouldn't become your identity. Because what happens when you remove everything? And Dr. Shaheem, that I had on my podcast, asked the question: who are you really when nobody is around? And that's a question I want to ask you. Do you like the person you become when nobody's watching? And I think this was a question that I took from the podcast that I actually ask myself regularly to ensure that I'm working from my purpose, I'm taking action, and my moral compass is in alignment. Because when you're on your own, you really are left with whatever person you've become. And if you don't like that, if you don't like the person who sat in the room when nobody else is around, I'd be curious to see what do you need to do in order to be that person that you would eventually like. And this was something that I definitely did learn early on, and I was very lucky to learn this before just as I had my body transformation, because back then I often I'll I'll tell you how it actually even started. It was I'll never forget, I was sat in pennies and Primark for any of the UK listeners, change them room, and I had a size actually, I won't even say the size because I don't want to discriminate anybody who's this current size. I had what was the largest pair of leggings that I'd ever tried on in the change room, and I sat down and I put one leg inside and I couldn't get it over my knee. At that stage, it put on so much weight, and I didn't even realize to that point that I'd outgrown my perception of myself. I was disgusted. I broke down in tears, and the identity that I created for myself at that time was so horrendous and so uncomfortable that I wanted to create a new identity for myself. And this brings me back to this book as well because it's been so powerful for me. Because when I realized you're probably gonna laugh now, the identity that I created for myself was the Michelin man, the tire guy. And when I created this identity for myself, and I created a new identity, was Sophia the Olympic athlete, because I felt like if Sophia was an Olympic athlete, she would respect her body, she would have confidence, she would be a go-getter, and she would get after her true potential. So I believed that I had this old identity, and I had created this new identity, that I could create space in between the two, so I'd never go back to my old self, and I really believed that when I was in that old situation of me being the Michelin man, I asked that question: who was I when nobody was around? And it upset me to be this person, but really all I needed was the knowledge and understanding and to really reflect on why I was behaving the way I was behaving, and to create a strategy plan and a process to get from A to B. And throughout that journey, I learned so much that it was the compound and effect of all the daily habits that I started to rebuild for myself in order to be the Sophia Olympian. Now I was never Olympian, and that's actually probably why I really kind of connected with any of the Olympians that I did have on the podcast. But I had this idea for myself that if I think like an Olympic athlete, I will change the way I operate, I will act in a certain way that I have so much energy, and I did. So even now to this stage, yeah, I'm not the Michelin man, but often I think you know, when I decide to have behaviors and habits that I'm not really keen on, I'm like, that's the Michelin man trying to creep in. So if Feel like you're not really reaching your true potential. I always say, give it a name, give it an identity, and create a new one for yourself. And I know sometimes at the end of the day, you shouldn't kind of attach yourself to an identity because what happens when that identity is lost? Who are you? But I feel like the behaviors and habits that come with that new identity really refines who you are, and you become happy with who you are. So the identity doesn't matter anymore. And I had a conversation the other day as well with someone who actually I had on the podcast the other day, and I asked him, Was it difficult to let go of your identity? Because he was a yoga, he's a yoga instructor. And I do I asked him, when you've built this persona, even on social media, now everyone has a social media more or less, and they create a persona out of themselves that when they grow out of that persona, it becomes like they need to have to shed their own skin again, and it becomes so uncomfortable. And this is something that I shared in a conversation with someone who had on the podcast was the fact that when I went, I was a personal trainer for seven years and went from seven years into fitness and to finance, which was a disaster. Um, but we'll talk about that. Um and I felt it was so incredibly difficult to shed a skin and an identity that I built for myself, but it was the only way I could actually move forward and realize that your identity isn't everything, and that you can have many different interests, and that your identity shouldn't steal you of the opportunity to say yes to other things because it doesn't align with what your identity is. And I let go of that completely after personal training. I went into finance, went into development, I became the executive manager of a prince. I now work in collaborations and partnerships with wellness brands and um a longevity clinic. And if I had not let go of my identity, would I have walked on the pathway and the opportunities that I've had? Absolutely not. Because I believe you create a ceiling above yourself if you can't let go of your old self and surrender and just listen and take a risk and take action. And every podcast that I've done, I've taken a risk, I've taken action, I've stepped into the unknown. And although I'm at a hundred episodes, you may not have seen the hundred no's that I've had, the hundred doors that I've closed on other opportunities when it comes to my career. And nobody gets a yes without potentially getting a no at some stage in their career. And the biggest issue I see for people is that they fear rejection, but rejection is part of vulnerability and exposing yourself to an exciting opportunity, and it's a funny, interesting thing because um I think I've talked about this on a podcast before, is that even when it comes to dating and relationships and uh career growth, you're always going to experience rejection. And although we might think it's the great idea to you know start a business um or start a relationship or go dating, but on the other side of all this, you have to open your mind and be available and okay with rejection. And I never forget when I worked in the investment firm, I got a million no's on a daily basis because I was literally selling fresh air. Now I'm not saying quite literally fresh air, but I didn't have anything visible to actually show them. I was selling them investment um opportunities, but I didn't have anything tangible to give them. Um, so I was getting no's on a daily basis, and then also I was dating at the time, and I was getting no's on a daily basis with Dayton, and I realized that I was getting no's from my career, no's from like Dayton life. I had enough rejection. And that was building resilience, and I didn't even realize until it got to the point where I had enough no's at work, I realized right, I can control the controllables here, so I'll stop dating. And I did at the time, but it made me really realize that the resilience that you find through rejection and putting yourself out there is how confidence is born, and often people think confidence is something that people naturally have, and I actually disagree, I think it's built because sometimes we don't have evidence to show that we can do something, but we still can do something with confidence, but we can only do stuff with confidence if we are prepared to lean into the fear, and this is something that I can probably pride my parents, my family on because I've watched them do such amazing things throughout their life, and they probably haven't had any evidence to show for them, but they've succeeded. And also when I look at my friends as well, I've amazing, successful friends, and they haven't had evidence to show either, but they've taken the chance on themselves and they've taken the risk on themselves, and everything that I've done to get to here to where I am today, and believe me, it's been a rocky journey from Dubai. I've been bankrupt, I've had everything and had nothing. Um and that was due to myself, my own city mistakes, you know, taking a risk, um, and also allow my ego to get in the way as well. But I definitely realize if I didn't go and take those chances or take the risks, I would never grow in the career path that I've grown in so far, or I wouldn't have developed. And this is for the listener, if you feel stagnant right now, do the things that make you feel a little bit unsafe because when you feel unsafe, you will eventually feel safety amongst that because you're adaptable. We look at the pandemic, for example, how quickly did we adapt to the pandemic? So I'm pretty sure you feel you'll feel comfort in that conversation with a stranger, asking for that job promotion, asking for that raise. I'm sure you will find comfort, but it's getting to the stage to have the courage and the bravery and to understand that there's growth waiting on the other side if you're willing to take that leap of faith. And that leap of faith is up to you. Nobody else can do that for you, and that was the beauty as well. When I used to work on the gym floor, it didn't matter how much money you had, it didn't matter the title that you had, you could be a CEO. But who's gonna do the burpees for you? Who's gonna do the sprints? Who's gonna exercise that muscle on a daily basis to really rebuild and become stronger? Only you can do that. And with the with working out, you exercise the muscle in your body that I think is exercised the muscle inside my brain. And I know I might push, you know, fitness, health, even through the podcast. I want to motivate as many people as possible to move and to understand that we have always two minds. We have our mind inside our brain, and we have our mind inside our gut as well, and these two connect. So not only do we have our physical body, but we also have our mind and our brain inside our gut. So this is where when I was going on my fitness journey and rebuilding and becoming more confident in myself, I realized that the nutrients and how I fed myself and respected myself was just as important. So the three key elements that you need to focus on in order to, and not only did I learn this through the podcast and the people who I spoke to, because everyone, more or less everyone who was successful, who was on this podcast, that actually seemed content and happy and successful in their career, they focused on three key things, and that was their mind, their nutrition, and their physical body. They prioritize these three, and without all these three, you're discounting your happiness and your contentment, and I know for sure, for sure, that when I allow one of these three key elements slide and I don't pay attention to one of these things, there is always a trade-off. And nobody is perfect, and I'm not perfect. And I notice when one of these things are upset, or yeah, I just haven't respected it. I look through a list of things that I could potentially do better in order for me to feel full again. And the key elements that I do look at, which are absolutely free, and especially now when you're looking at the industry of biohacking, longevity, you think things are so expensive, but really I think we're being so dragged away from the basics: good sleep, less screen time, hydration, being outside in sunlight. All these things are so natural, organic, they're free, good conversations with good people, telling people I love you, petting a dog, for instance, and this is gonna bring me on to my last uh my one of my last points. All these things are absolutely free, but yet we take them for granted, and I promise you, if you focus on the basics, you will really enhance your well-being, and don't allow your environment or external people to drag you away from those things. And I'm gonna give you a bit of a closing point on this now because one finding that I had, and I've noticed from 2025, this has been the year of care for me, and I always say every year I have a theme, and this year was to be relentlessly intentional with everything I do as much as possible. And I know that sounds really strict and rigid because sometimes I do believe that maybe I do take life too seriously, and it's something that I need to work on as well. But this year I've been relentlessly intentional with caring for people, and I think when we care and we connect with people, we have true purpose in living. We feel the need to be loved and to love others. Um it gives us purpose to be our full potential self and to be a good great person, to be kind, to be strong, to be in good health. And I think we're entering into an era where maybe we don't care for others because we're an expat, we're an entrepreneur, we spend we silo ourselves because business is so important, where we forget that business will only stay and work if we actually fulfill our purpose, focus on our health, our connection, our well-being, our love, our physical health. All this without this, you don't have the business, and I think that's a firm reminder that connection is so important. And to bring me back to I'm going off on a tangent now, and I don't know whether I've made sense even in this podcast. So I just hope you've enjoyed this hundred episode of me blobbing on with my thoughts and a few ideas that I have in mind, but I believe that we're entering an era where people are becoming less important, even animals are becoming less important, and I and I'll say this because I minded a dog for four weeks, and I can tell you this now. I understand where animal therapy is actually a thing because nothing really matters, or nothing is really that important when you have the responsibility of someone else or a dog. So if you're a listener that's here, and I kind of feel like a lot of my listeners are expats and they're people who are maybe solo or whatever, but although sometimes you might look at your partner, your friends, your family, and you think, Oh, I just want my own space, they're adding so much value to you without you even realizing they're giving you purpose throughout your day, and they're actually giving you more happiness than you ever really believe. And it's only when you're on your own for long periods of time, which sometimes isn't orchestrated for everyone, so they don't get to experience this, but that's when you really see the true value in connection, and this podcast really, if there's anything that I want you to take away from this podcast, it's to stop swimming away from the basics and looking for looking for the secret answer. Like I know my I know people are probably gonna shoot me for saying this, but you know, complicating things with the next peptide therapy or um I don't know, the next new AI technology or whatever, and actually just focus on the basics for a little bit. Yes, all these things have a place, yes, peptide therapy, yes, AI makes our life more efficient. But like, what can you do without these things that can immediately change your well-being? And a lot of it is right under your nose, you don't need to overcomplicate things. Um and with that being said, I just want to really thank everyone who's listened to the podcast. And if you enjoyed this solo cast, please share your your thoughts with me. And also, my book, it will be out in the second week of November. Where if you're listening right now and you're someone who feels super stuck in the body that you dislike, or if you understand and know someone who's really struggling right now, this book will be for you. Thank you for listening to the podcast.