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Solocast : Insights on Ozempic, Book Reviews, Mastering Stress and Corporate Life.

• Sophia Delavari • Season 1 • Episode 63

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Ever wondered how your thoughts could be fueling your stress far beyond the initial physical reaction? Join me as I unravel the profound insights from "Unstressable" by Mo Gawdat and Alice Law, sharing my personal journey of managing stress while navigating the challenges of a new job. Together, we'll explore the importance of self-awareness in stress management and how emotions, as energy seeking expression, can be harnessed for a balanced and stress-free life. 

Switching gears, I'll share my nuanced views on Ozempic discussing its potential benefits and risks. Listen as I reflect on my transition from self-employment to the corporate world, highlighting the rich value of diverse interactions and community in a workplace setting. Don't miss out on the chance to share your thoughts on corporate life and suggest books for future reviews. And stay tuned for a sneak peek into an exciting guest announcement coming soon!

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Welcome back to another episode of the Detached Podcast. Today it's obviously a solo cast, so we're having a one-on-one conversation, and the reason why I'm having this is because I've accumulated lots of information from books that I've read recently, experiences that I've had, and also I've accumulated some questions that you guys have had on social media, on Instagram, and I thought let's share it with you, lovely listeners, so you can get some value for any of the questions I'm going to answer and also the information that I've learned, because I think information's useless if you don't share it, and this podcast is all for me to share lots of beautiful conversations and experiences with amazing people out there, because sometimes some people have amazing stories but they don't get the chance to actually share it, and I think a lot can be learned through conversations. So, with that being said, I'm going to get into the topics of stress at the very beginning, because I read a book related to stress, because I read a book related to stress. Now I read the book Unstressable, which is a practical guide to a stress-free living, by Mo Gadda and with Alice Law. Now, mo Gadda is a good friend of mine and I appreciate his books that he writes. He's written a book about happiness. I'm not going to sabotage the name, but it changed my perspective and the way I book about happiness. I'm not going to sabotage the name, but it changed my perspective and the way I think about happiness and how happiness is actually your default state.

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So I knew I wanted to read this book and also I felt like it was such good timing to read this book because I just started a new job at the beginning of this year and anything new does require stress. It requires a level of stress because you need to be open-minded, that you're probably not going to be the best person in the room because you're new. Also, you're open to a level of stress because there's a level of expectation for performance and I always think it's really important to read a book with the content that you feel like you need the most so you can take all the information that you learn from the book and you can execute it, you can put it into action, so it helps you to really digest that information and to not let it just pass by. That it really resonates with you and I feel like it engraves so much more in my mind when I get information and I put it into practice. So, with that being said, unstressable. Unstressable is a book that, if you are currently feeling a little bit stressed, you need to manage your emotions and your thoughts and you have found yourself in a situation where you can't tolerate stress anymore, this book will give you all the tools that you need.

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Believe me, whether I felt like I couldn't deal with stress or not, I feel like I still have managed to pick up some little infrastructures that have been very helpful and useful for not only me, but for others that are surrounding me. So there was one takeaway and one line that really helped change the way I think about myself and about others. So I'm going to give you this one liner that was mentioned he who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened. Now, working in the corporate world or managing people or being surrounded by people, it's always an excellent thing to be able to read others in the room, to understand who's around you. The person who can understand people who are within their space can seem wise. Can understand people who are within their space can seem wise. But that wisdom only really becomes super useful when you really know yourself, because as you figure out who you are as a person, you actually understand others around you and you can be way more supportive as well. So I felt like that one-liner was really important, because when sometimes you're feeling a little bit stressed, you're in work or you're at home and you feel under pressure, other people suffer around you. So it's your job in order to feel enlightened, in order to have that spread across your team, your relationships, your friendships. So in order to be able to do that, you need to become enlightened within yourself, and that sometimes can be very difficult when you're stressed. Sometimes it can be very difficult when you're stressed. So where does the stress come from? The stress normally comes from the narrative that we play inside our minds, and it has been defined in this book. You'll understand stress inside and out so you'll have the tools to be able to deal with it in the future.

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Now, in the book, alice Law had mentioned that dr balti, who is a neurologist, has come, has created a study and basically he mentioned that 90 seconds. It's sorry. It takes 90 seconds to have neuro adrenaline process inside your brain, right? So it takes 90 seconds for you to have stress. Right after that, your stress is gone, right. The only thing that lives on is the way you think about your stress. So, scientifically proven, stress can only live for 90 seconds, but it's the thoughts that we have on a feedback loop that ignites that neuroadrenaline for us to go further and to be able to push more energy into that stressful feeling that we're feeling. So if we were to manage our thoughts, we could minimize the time that we spend in stress. And I found that super helpful because, in reality, if you've science to show you that your stress actually only lasts 90 seconds, it means that you need to get your shit together and start changing the way you think and start getting disciplined with your thoughts and start changing the way you think and start getting disciplined with your thoughts. So I found this really, really useful now because I've become more disciplined since even reading this, with how I think about stress and how long I let it live inside my brain, so that was super useful.

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Also, the last takeaway that I took away from this book was Mo Gadot mentioned emotions are energy seeking expression, and I felt like that really hit home with me, because sometimes, when we feel very emotional or we have emotions or something doesn't sit with us, well, we have this feeling in the pit of our stomach or inside our minds or wherever you feel emotion that just comes down to you not being able to fully express yourself, and I always think that expression is so important. That expression is so important and understanding who you can express yourself to is very, very important, and this has been a practice for mine for quite some time, and I felt like this book has really just kind of sent me a bit of a reminder again that when you need to express yourself, you should have a set person that you go to to express certain emotions, to feel supported, to be able to engage and to be able to push that energy through and not suppress it. So, for an example, I have certain people that I would run to and I know I need to express these sorts of emotions. I need to have this conversation. So it means that you don't suppress how you feel.

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When you don't suppress how you feel, the emotion can pass by. It's like a journey, it's like a train can pass by and it will head to its destination, which where it needs to go. Now, if you don't express your emotions, it starts to pile up and I want you to imagine like, if you don't express your emotions, imagine you're filling an inch of a cup up with those emotions and the next time you don't express yourself again you're adding to that cup. One day that cup's gonna get super full and it's gonna overfill, it'll overspill, and often these times will happen when actually the situation that you're in is not something that you could, that you should be emotionally drained in. Often it can be the, the last, the, it can be the smallest thing for someone to erupt and to act irrationally. So I always feel like, if you can keep emptying your cup on a daily basis, why not go ahead and do it? Because then you've space then to think clearly, you've space to support others around you and never feel like a burden when you have these emotions, and you need to spread this energy because the right people will listen. Um, so, with that being said, that is Mo Gadda and Alice Law's book Unstressable and I really recommend it. Even I've three pages or three chapters left. I totally recommend it.

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Um, now, moving on from that, I had read a book by Rami Nais, who was on my podcast two weeks ago. So if you haven't watched that podcast, go check it out. It's been. Uh, it was just such an incredible podcast because this guy, he has been through so much, he had cancer before and he basically ran 110 kilometers around Dubai Expo. Well, you'll say 105, but it was supposed to be 110 barefoot.

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He talks about the importance of staying grounded, the effects of running barefoot, and there's something very, very beautiful about how the body moves and how grounding is very important to be able to manage also manage your own stress and his book. Anyway, he talks about like new beginnings. He talks about running. He talks about running, he talks about curiosity, he talks about life outside of the mind, outside of the body, and this book is for. I definitely would prescribe this book for someone who's seeking more out of life, for someone who's looking to be motivated, who's looking to build discipline. You'll get this from this book.

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I read this book within four hours, right, and I have dyslexia, so this is very rare. This is a rare appearance, um, to see sophia read for four or four hours straight and read a whole book in one go. So I know I'm probably not giving you the full breakdown of this book, but that should be enough in itself for you to understand that this is. This is a good read, but, as I said, the type of person I think who should read this book is definitely someone who's looking to start off in their fitness journey, their wellness journey, or looking to improve their health. I think it will give you the motivation to kick start that. Um Rami also he, he basically like his his life is just absolutely crazy. He like he's been through so much and he talks about so much of his life journeys um, throughout the book as well. So I feel like you'd you'd resonate with this guy through some part of his life. Um, and also, he broke a world record for standing on nails for 12 hours. So he talks about his challenges and I think when you surround yourself or read about people's stories who've done exponential things like this that have been so exhilarating, it's hard to not feel slightly motivated to do something to live life to the fullest. And this book, anyway, is called let's live and it's exactly what it says on the tin and he's all about living, all about feeling alive. So definitely recommend this book for sure.

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Um, now, moving on from the books now, so I'll get on to people's uh questions that have asked, or the questions that came up on Instagram. So, number one I often get this question all the time. How do I build confidence right? And confidence can come and go. Confidence is not something that sticks around forever. It's an ongoing process and I feel like confidence is built through your beliefs and sometimes we might believe we can't do something and we need to change our beliefs in order for us to build that confidence to take action.

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I found, before I went through my body transformation, my confidence was an all-time low, and the reason why I felt like it was an all-time low was probably because I was overweight as well and I wanted to be the average person, or I wanted to be exceptional of whatever that means to people. So I felt like my confidence was at an all-time low. Now, how did I build confidence in a body that I wasn't happy in? And that was through my self-beliefs. I believed that I was an athlete. At the time, I remember installing new beliefs. I thought how, how do I want to feel? Who do I want to be? And, I thought, started to think like an athlete, and that actually built confidence inside me to show me that I was way more capable of doing more than what my mind thought previously before. So confidence is always, I would say, confidence is built through your self-beliefs and through action. So through action, you build experiences. That shows evidence that you can do stuff. So, generally speaking, confidence is built through beliefs and action. So that's my two number one tips.

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Um, the next question that I got what has been a life-changing book for me? Okay, so life-changing book. Atomic Habits by James Clear hands down the most monumental book that I've ever read. That has supported me through every career, every relationship I've ever been in, just having discipline. He just makes everything so crystal clear to how to build a habit. And it's funny because we have all these things, we want to build these habits, but we don't know the structure, the process behind it, and that's why we fail. We fail at things, generally speaking, because our process isn't working, the process isn't working. So you don't normally fail because you're shit at something. It just means that your process needs some fine-tuning. And I feel like James Clear will fine-tune any sort of habit that you want to build and he makes it as simple as possible. So it really resonated with me. So, james Clear, anyway, atomic Habits go check it out, you won't be disappointed, and I've read this book multiple times, like multiple times. Um, so, yeah, definitely recommend this. Um, okay, two more questions I'm gonna answer um.

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So what's my thoughts this topic? What's my thoughts on ozempic? I'm still undecided on ozempic, right. So ozempic is an interesting topic because I try to put it in parallel with taking antidepressants, right, and my views on people taking antidepressants is that sometimes they need something, they need to take something in order to get to a destination and they need that support temporarily, because when you think of anyone who goes on antidepressants, they don't want to be on antidepressants for the rest of their life. It's literally the leading bridge to a better, healthier mind in the future and it's well. Well, most people would like to think it's a temporary fix now. With ozempic, for someone who is super obese, this could be the leading bridge for them to live a healthier, happier life. Um, and it's a gateway for them to create that change immediately and quicker. Um, in a sense. So this is where sometimes I think maybe ozempic might be useful, but I still need to do a lot more research on this.

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I feel like, um, there's lots of benefits that have come out of ozempic. Um, I'm not. I'm not against it, I'm not for it, but I'm in the middle stage where I think it can be useful in some cases, but I just don't think people should abuse it. So, for an example, for serious cosmetic reasons, I think. For an example for cosmetic reasons, I'm just like lads, just manage how you eat. Manage how you eat, move more, like, be disciplined, because it is a temporary fix. You can't be on ozempic for the rest of your life, you just can't. And the implications that it would have on your body if you were, especially for cosmetic reasons like what's earned is learned, you know. So I think, for someone who's obese, yes, um, I can see where it has its place. Um, for cosmetics, I'm slightly borderline, not really um, agreeable to it. But, um, look my opinion, my belief, um, you know and you know, and that sometimes changes. So that's uh, that's that question park to the side, but I am.

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I am writing a book and the last chapter is on Ozempic, but it still hasn't been finished. So, um, guys, that will be out on the 1st of September as well, so I will talk about that a little bit more, but for now, this is my um slight little um idea around ozempic. So, anyway, last but not least, no last last question um, how have you managed to be your own boss? Oh. So how have you managed to be your own boss and go into the corporate world? Okay, so I would suggest, working for yourself for so many years has been very, very interesting, whilst now I'm still in a position where I have a lot of authority. I would say that I can be like, kind of my own boss, but I work alongside many people, um, so I don't feel like I've really lost that.

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But what I would suggest now going from the going from being your own boss with little to no employees to now being employed and being surround a workspace with lots of different personalities I don't think anybody realizes how effective it is to work in a space full of people of different personalities and to have that experience on a daily basis, to be able to be surrounded by different personalities and to be who you are and stay within your own purpose. I think it's a, I think it's a skill that's really required, um to do where before I felt like I could manage my environment so much to the point that, um, I was probably in my head a lot, um, and I think there's a lot to be learned through other people, and I always say, like you know someone who gets left behind in a tribe. They don't survive. So I think we're made to be in tribes and I think there's something really effective with uh being employed and being in an office surrounded by people. So I don't know.

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I'd love to know your thoughts on this as well. Um, please feel free to drop me a message. There's obviously a link at the bottom of this as well. I want to know your thoughts about corporate life. Do you enjoy it and what have? What has been the best thing that you've learned being surrounded by people? I want to know that because I feel like I've gone through seven years of kind of working for myself to now being in a completely different environment, and I just think it's such an excellent environment to work in, but maybe because my workspace is so amazing and I really love the people that are there.

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But anyway, with that said, thank you for listening to today's podcast I hope you enjoyed this episode and for more book reviews and for more information that I've learned throughout my days. I'm going to keep a fat stack for the next solo cast, so if there's any questions that you want to know or if there's any books that you'd like me to review, please let me know. I'll stick it on my list. If they have any relevant interest in my life right now, I will read them and I'll review them and send out some information and analogies. So anyway, guys, thank you again for listening to the podcast and, before you go, hit the subscribe button if you've not subscribed already, so you can get notifications for when I blast out another new podcast as soon we have the one of the most amazing guests coming on to the podcast. So listen up for the next episode.